Looks do matter.
But we don’t like to admit this is true, because it feels unfair. Believe me, I know. I use a wheelchair and I barely have any meat on my bones. This is my reality.
I could be upset that the default assumption is that I am inferior/useless/impure. But that doesn’t help me, and I recently spoke about how revamping my wardrobe was one of the easiest things I did to become more attractive and confident.
And I didn't do anything extraordinary. In fact, a few simple wardrobe tweaks can benefit anyone. Case in point: one of my closest friends, Marko.
Marko is a friend that I can always count on, even if that means pushing my 350lb wheelchair up a giant hill when it breaks down (true story).
Marko wanted to be a happy, fun, and charismatic young professional. And when he got a haircut, shaved his face, and wore a suit on the way to an interview, that's how he felt. And the world seemed to agree, as strangers would make eye contact with him and smile. But when he put on his usual attire, he felt like a younger, less sophisticated version of himself. And again, the world seemed to agree, as strangers would avoid eye contact with him.
Marko was about to start a new job, and he knew he had the passion and skills to perform well at it, but he worried about being limited by this former self.
Knowing that my life changed when I started “dressing like a hipster”, Marko asked if I could give him some pointers on how to take his fashion up a notch. He didn’t want to spend a fortune, and he also didn’t want to spend hours getting ready in the morning.
- Skinnier is sexier. Your clothing should fit you like a glove.
- Go versatile before you go wild. Get dark blue jeans and some solid tees before the pink chinos.
- Have fun with accessories. Go crazy with socks, belts, rings, bracelets, necklaces, glasses, etc. Body art and piercings, if you feel so inclined.
- Don’t buy it unless you love it. If you only “kind of” like something, you’ll probably never wear it.
So how did we do? Here are a sample of Marko's outfits, both before (left) and after (right).
Marko looks instantly more friendly, professional and dare I say, handsome. And he feels the results. He sees himself as a happy, fun, and charismatic young professional, so he naturally exudes those qualities, which have always been within him. And guess what? The world seems to agree, of course. Marko reports that people are immediately friendly and warm towards him, and that several beautiful women have come up to him to start a conversation.
Is your wardrobe working for you?
I had so much fun doing this, that I’ve decided to offer up my fashion expertise. Marko loves his new look, and now he's excited about exploring fashion, but I know not every guy will end up that way.
For some guys, getting a tooth pulled sounds more fun than going to the mall and looking through racks of clothes. For others, there’s just no time between work and family. And since I’m always trying to find clothing to make my incredibly slim body look good, I know I can help anyone.
Most guys don't need an entire makeover. For example, some of Marko's shoes still worked, so we spent his budget elsewhere. If you’re interested, or even if you just have a fashion question (like which shirt goes best with those jeans) send me an email.
To wrap things up, here’s my favorite shot from Marko’s photo shoot (thanks to Silas Chu for all the incredible captures).
Now that's a good looking man!
Do you freeze up around attractive women? Have you never kissed a girl? Have you never had a girlfriend? Do you feel that everybody else has friends but you don’t? I’ve been there. And it sucks.
Here's my 30 second story:
I use a wheelchair and I have a degenerative muscle condition. I was always the shy, nerdy kid, and I had ZERO success with women – my first kiss didn't happen until I was 22 years old. I went to an Ivy League University and landed my dream job at Microsoft, but I was miserable. After the girl I was in love with told me, "I don't know how any woman could be attracted to a guy in a wheelchair," I hired a dating coach to turn my life around. Now, my social calendar is booked weeks in advance, and I get to choose the friends that I really want to spend time with. Now, I've been on 60+ dates, I've enjoyed sex and intimacy with several women, and I've had incredible girlfriends.
If you desire similar experiences, I know I can help you. Get my practical tips for improving your social and dating life by signing up below. I would love to help you, because now that I've experienced these massive improvements in my life, I wish someone would have stepped in much earlier and helped me.